"When you become quiet, you let yourself relax into your true nature. When this happens, you realize you cannot avoid any part of your experience. If you are looking for quietness to help you avoid some feeling, then you are not going to experience the real quietness. The nakedness of quiet disarms you so that you can't avoid any experience, any event, anything." ~Adyashanti.
Whoever said "The truth hurts" wasn't kidding. It doesn't always hurt. But it definitely can. The question is, do you run from truth when it starts to sting?
Who doesn't, right? But have you ever tried not running from a painful moment or feeling? You know -- not distracting yourself, not resisting it, not blaming someone else, not retreating into your thoughts and stories about it -- but just letting it in? Just facing it and relaxing into it? Letting yourself fully feel the hurt of it?
It's definitely not the easiest or most popular approach to a painful moment or experience. But it is the one that will put you most in touch with your self and ultimately allow you to pass through the pain, instead of shelving it.
After you do this a few times, you realize that it doesn't kill you, that you can open yourself up to even moments like these -- and that you have less baggage to carry around as a result.
Here's a related note from my book, Notes to Self: Meditations on Being:
It's The Right Thing for the Moment
What's the reality of this moment?
Just a moment of feeling what is -
without the idea that it is off
in some way... that some part of it
shouldn't be happening.
Let come what may, never doubting
that it is the right thing for
That does not mean it is the right
thing for every moment... but the
remaining moments will take care of
Just a gal experimenting with what it means to live outside of mind.
Read more about Notes to Self, the "manual" on living beyond mind.