We hear often enough the phrase, "be true to yourself."
But what exactly does that mean?
In the day-to-day world, it means getting clear on what your hopes, dreams and aspirations are — and then pursuing them unwaveringly. It means trusting and following your your gut feeling on issues that come up in your life.
There's another way to define being true to yourself. By this definition it means being true to what's here, to what's real in your life now, in this moment, in each moment as it arises. Less about true to what you want in life, though that can be a facet of it.
But ultimately, more about true to what your life is, to being okay with who and what you have in your life, even if it looks nothing like what you ever wanted or dreamed or planned for it to.
Even beyond being true to all that, it's about being true to who you are and how you are.
What I'm talking about here is being true to you the person, as you are, in all your humanness. Being willing to look at yourself honestly, just as you are. Even if you don't like what you see. Even if you hate what you see. Even if what you see is a bunch of weaknesses, failures, faults, and all the other stuff most of us are all-too-ready to point out in others -- but largely unable or unwilling to really see and admit to in our own selves.
If we deny and avoid these shadow aspects of ourselves when we get glimpses of them then we aren't being true to ourselves. Which means we're not being true to Truth. We don't come to know Truth by avoiding anything, by pretending that these things we don't like or can't stand about ourselves don't exist.
Nor is it true to our ourselves to immediately decide we must change and eliminate these things when we do spot them. Truth is just facing. Facing the things about ourselves that we've been avoiding and running from, even if they're not fun or pretty to admit to. Facing the pains, fears and unpleasant feelings that we've pushed under the carpet over the years, and keep pushing under the carpet on a daily basis.
When we're ready and willing to lift the carpet and allow all these hidden things to see the light of day, that's when we're being true to ourselves. This is true freedom. And when we're being true to ourselves, Truth will naturally and organically effect change if/when/as it's needed.
Just a gal experimenting with what it means to live outside of mind.
Read more about Notes to Self, the "manual" on living beyond mind.